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Dating Advice: 5 Traits Guys Seek in a Girl

Justin Parfitt

Guys are as varied as women when it comes to what they think is attractive in the other gender. Some people are drawn to eyes first, some people notice the way she moves or sense of adventure, while still others could be attracted to clothing or a certain je ne sais quoi. It varies across the spectrum.
The upside is that on the question of character, men are surprisingly similar. There are just some qualities that men find attractive. Generally speaking, these can be reduced down to 5 key traits guys seek in a woman.
1. Self sufficiency – Dependant people are a real turn off. Being independent and pursuing your own agenda not only demonstrates that you are a unique, lively girl, it also indicates that you are confident enough to leave your boyfriend for a while, and ensures that he getsthe required and much discussed “space”. It’s great to feel adored, but too much dependence can feel like suffocation. Having other pastimes and activities is essential – and also gives your guy reason to miss you while you’re away!
2. Confidence – Research shows that the sexiest quality in either sex is self assurance. When you’re happy in your skin, it shows other people that there is something to be happy about, that you have substance and quality. A bit of jealousy is normal and can even be endearing, but a continuously second-guessing, self doubting girlfriend, who constantly questions your actions and motives is extremely unappealing. Be confident and trusting. If he’s unfaithful, he’s the one that loses out, and you’re secure enough to leave him for a more deserving guy.
3. Level Headednedd – A woman worked up is a man’s living hell. From his pestering mother to his irritating ex, your boyfriend has likely witnessed his fair share of female psychotic episodes. These situations are disturbing for men, who steer clear of them no matter what. Be frank, relaxed, and logical at all times, and the friendship and respect between you will grow. If you are frequently highly strung and/or illogical, your boyfriend will avoid you, especially in times when he probably needs you most. Be a reliable support, in a composed, understanding and reasonable manner.
4. Don’t Be A Nag – Let it go! Pick your fights, and select them thoughtfully. Like everyone, men can be somewhat stubborn or ridiculous sometimes. You need to learn when to stand your ground and when to let it slide. Pestering never is the solution, usually prevents a resolution, and always ends up evoking resentment.
5. Tolerance (for his interests, his family, his buddies, and so on) – This one is a deal breaker. There has to be tolerance in a relationship, and it has to go both ways. This means listen to opinions, be supportive and don’t demean in any way, shape, or form especially publicly. Even if it goes against the grain, just suck it up. You may not like all his decisions, or particular aspects of his life, and you don’t have to – but you do have to tolerate them.

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Flirting Advice by Justin Parfitt, The CEO of FastLife Speed Dating, the worlds largest speed dating and singles events service. Fastlife hosts speed dating events in 47 cities in 6 countries including speed dating UK and Speed dating in Melbourne

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